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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Best Selling Author , writes… …

Tina from New Zealand wanted to know “How do I release negative thinking when I’m trying to find my soul mate relationship”?

Great question because negative thinking is a big player in all of our manifesting successes especially in finding your perfect soulmate relationship.

There’s this little old thing called a limiting belief. It plays big time in our belief in our worthiness to have what we truly desire in our soulmate relationship rather than settling for what ever comes our way. Negative thoughts are old patterns that have been ingrained in our consciousness. Negative thought patterns come from the unconscious level of the mind. We’ve all got them. It’s just, for most of us, we don’t realize they’re a player in your soulmate relationship attraction abilities. So it’s a good thing that you acknowledge that you’ve got some negative thought patterns about finding a loving, soulmate connection running in the background or the foreground, whichever the case may be.

This is the way we’ve all been trained.

Child development experts tell us that by the time we’re 6 years old, we’ve heard the word NO over 60,000 times? We were constantly being told what we can’t do and why we CAN’T DO it. It’s no wonder you’ve got some negative patterns running. Couple that with the mass consciousness thinking and unless you surround yourself with progressive thinkers, it’s hard to actually utilize these powerful principles and attract your soulmate relationship. For added support, get involved with like minded thinkers as you’re recreating your negative thought patterns into fully empowered self-esteem.

You’ll learn much more about how to gain Self-Confidence, Worthiness and Self-Esteem AND Seven more Secrets to Finding the Love of Your Dreams, when you get my FREE DVD called “7 Secrets to Finding the Love of Your Dreams” — Just go to www.loveofyourdreams.com

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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Advisor , writes… …

As a coach, giving advice on dating and relationships is my passion. Helping people with their vulnerabilities and concerns is important work. You feel particularly vulnerable when you’ve just started the dating process, everything is new in the relationship. You still feel like you need to know if they’ll stay committed. Wanda from Arizona asked “How do I know they’ll stay committed to the relationship”?

In my free 7 Secrets video, I explain how this question could fall under a couple categories. Your question could be related to finding clarity on the values you desire in your mate when you Make the List, or it could also fall under the building your Self-Esteem category.

But primarily as I see it, I think this concern falls under the lesson on learning how to Make Your List. You see, you may have had a partner who strayed, or wouldn’t commit and you may have been hurt deeply and yet when I coach you on how to make your list, you’ll also amplify your desire and gain clarity on what you want and why you want it. When you write the list of what you want in your soul mate, you’ll learn what it feels like to feel confident in love. Focusing brings clarity and intentionality in what you desire. You”ll be able to identify whether you have split energy on the subject. And you’ll clear any conflicting energy out of your way.

You quickly understand that you have the power to ask for what you want and get it. You’ll also learn how to determine what in which areas you won’t compromise.

The tools you’ll learn apply to every area of life, not just attracting your dream love.

You’ll learn much more about how to Make Your List AND Seven more Secrets to Finding the Love of Your Dreams, when you get my FREE DVD called “7 Secrets to Finding the Love of Your Dreams” — Just go to www.loveofyourdreams.com

If you want to know how to win her back more than anything else at the moment, I may be able to help you here. It doesn’t matter who dumped who, I don’t know the ins and outs of your split. I do know how to get a lady back though. A while back my wife left me so I’m pretty familiar how painful it can be.

The fact that we’d split up had totally taken over my life. There’s me thinking things were going great and bam! she’s walked out. Talk about a surprise. As guys, we tend to take our woman & relationship for granted after a while. And that sometimes results in our downfall.

I had to get my wife back when she went, but I had no clue how. I was doing the same as you are now, searching the web for answers. There was lots of webites with little bits of advice, but never the full answer.

I wasn’t stupid enough to think I could buy a magic bullet on the net and win her back with it. But I knew I needed a battle plan, something I could follow step by step. I was also acutely aware of the fact that if I didn’t get my act together she might be lost forever.

I ended up on a site advertising an ebook about getting back together and all the magic surrounding it. Yeah right! I decided to give it a go after watching a video of the guy selling it. As a salesman, he stunk a bit but I liked his ideas. After all, I had zero left to lose, but possibly something to gain.

I didn’t really know what to expect but I certainly wasn’t expecting a section on psychological mind moves. It seemed I’d made a good decision to get this system. Man was I looking forward to using these psycho tactics. It actually turned out the psychological tactics were so subtle she never had a clue. It certainly wasn’t the deep hypnosis stuff I was worried it may been.

But that doesn’t mean the psycho tactics were not effective, oh no! They worked like a dream. I followed the advice in the system and made first contact with my ex. The system shows you how to do this in complete detail. We arranged to meet up for a coffee and from then on, sticking to the system rules, it seemed I was in total control.

My ex just didn’t have a clue that I was quietly controlling the situation. She still doesn’t realise I’m doing it now. If we were to breakup again, which I doubt will happen. I will be fully confident of getting back together in no time at all.

If you want to win her back you have two roads you can go down. Continue as you are doing now. Which is probably getting you nowhere fast? Or decide to get a system to show you how to win her back. And then keep her.

I have witnessed, both within my own family, in the outside world and in my practice, what can happen in a relationship if there is no common bond that can actually bind a couple together.

Well, let me digress (or maybe, progress) and say a bit about getting together as a couple in the first place: even if there is a strong attraction, be it physical, mental or emotional: Love; That does not seem to be enough to keep a couple together; the body will wither, the mind will change and the emotions will flutter. And love may turn into a dependency or habit. Unless, there is a third entity; the glue that binds the one to the other; the bond that binds, a mutual goal and lifetime commitment to it. To see you through the inevitable tough times, you will need something greater than both of you; a driving force that can take both of you, like a boat down the river, or an ark during a flood …

In my opinion, there are two good bonds; children and Religion or a Spiritual Practice (to be more politically correct, or any other proven external disciplinary way of life that both parties agreed to commit to whole-heartedly, abide by, follow and emulate; the goal). With both of these present, the chances are multiplies exponentially. But, even with both of these, there are no garantees.

Without these, there is no common bond; it’s just two people living separate lives together: convenient for a nice meal, some ambience, safe sex, and the occasional meaningful conversation …

So, the intent or lifetime goal of both parties must be the same. Otherwise, both sides will be resentful, because, in any situation, for any important decision, no compromise can satisfy both of the parties, because their primary motivating goals are different; or they have no primary motivating goals and “just don’t feel like it” at the time. And so there is no improvement in the situation and resentments, anger, etc. build; and there is no possibility for a long-term relationship.

A tendency towards negativity, insecurity and fear/anxiety may sometimes seem to obscure love. But this is who the person is at the moment; and they are perfect the way they are.

Love may sometimes seem to be obscured by a tendency towards not wanting to be so depended upon by the other, for their happiness, security and emotional wellbeing. But this is who that person is at the moment; and perfect the way they are.

Much of this may stem from residual family entanglements. Control issues coming from the family of origin may be the cause of some behaviors. Some behaviors may come from family insecurity issues.

There are a few key issues that need to be kept in mind: Trust! Honesty! One must trust the other, as the right hand trusts the left. And one must be honest and trustworthy, inside the relationship and in the world at large as well; trusting yourself, being honest with yourself and trusting your partner and being honest with your partner, and being trustworthy and honest in all your dealings in the world. In other words, your thoughts, speech and actions should always be in line with a clear conscience.

There are times when you will feel rejected or abandoned, based on your perception of the situation. There is usually no reason to feel this way; from the other’s standpoint, it’s not about you, it may be about their family control issues.

At times you may feel that you would appear weak if you give in to the desires of the other. There is no reason to feel weak by giving in: remember the bond that binds; you can show your compassion and accommodation of what may be the other’s family insecurity issues.

Besides the above mentioned, or perhaps, because of the above mentioned, there may be a lack of real compassion and empathy on the part of both parties for each other. To see the world from the other persons heart and to trust the other person, that they are doing the best they can. To see them as perfect, the way they are. (That’s not to say that there is no room for improvement.) To realize the person is always more important than any ideology or material object or goal; the relationship comes first.

Perhaps ask; what’s the worst thing that can happen if the worst thing happens. Usually the answer is not such a big deal. Again, the third entity, the bond that binds, the trust in that everything that happens is only good.

There is a need for genuine compassion and complete acceptance of the other as perfect as they are; acknowledgement and acceptance of each others needs and idiosyncrasies and the commitment and willingness to live with them as they are, for as long as they are that way. And how can we come to such a point. History has shown, as do presetn day successful marriages, that there is a bond that binds one love ot the other. This “glue” comes in the form of a “third party”.

The other person; their feelings, hopes, dreams, goals must be your own as well: you are one; heads and tails of the same coin. Essentially, two bodies split off from one soul, one spirit.

It says, “All beginnings are difficult”. And while this may be so, you can ensure that the trip will be worthwhile and pleasant for you and for all of those who love you, by heading in the right direction, with the right foot, for the right reasons, towards the right goal …

Abraham Bruck is the developer of the Universal Healing Technique and the UHT Lifetime Trauma Resolution Protocol.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… …

I’m frequently asked how to find love when there’s been so much failure in the past. Here are a couple of your burning questions and my Law of Attraction coaching answer to them.

1. I’m in my mid-40′s. I’m just about to give up on love. I’m afraid my time has passed.

Don’t give up. It’s NEVER too late. Make it your dominant intention to find out what belief you hold that stands between you and being a magnet for love.

Consider the Universe is a gigantic intention fulfillment machine. When you ask, and it’s not coming, you have a dominant belief or vibration about it being difficult. You have a lingering belief in not being worthy, or that something else is wrong with you. Look for whatever that limiting belief is and work with a coach to soften and shift that belief. Read how to bridge a belief in the Resources section on www.nanettegeiger.com.

2. How can I know that I’m in the allowing mode? That is an excellent question! And I believe that it is the foundational piece that most of us need to work on. Build your belief muscles by pretending how wonderful it will be when your love shows up. Practice what it feels like to be in love. One of the very best ways is to work with the ‘feeling state’ as much as possible. Practice frequently. It takes repetition to learn a new habit.

By the feeling state, I mean engaging all of the senses by imagining what it will be like when … … the love of your life comes to stay … you plan a fun weekend getaway for her … you hold hands and tell jokes … you play games in the car on a long ride etc., etc. You get the idea. This will move your vibration into the state of allowing because you’re acting AS-IF it’s already so.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… …

Here are some dating tips and insights to help you get back into the game, especially if you’re dating after divorce. In the last of our series on Dating Consciously, “

Appearance Aren’t Everything,” we’ll take a closer look at the visual side of appearance. Check out the results from a dating survey. Choose the most important features of a partner

• Personality 30%
• Sense of Humor 14%
• Smile 12%
• Looks 11%
• Eyes 10%
• Hair 7%
• Education 7%
• Physique 5%
• Career 3%
• Popularity 0%

As you can see, Personality rated top, overwhelmingly!

What does it say about the dater and the datee? What’s clearly established here is that it’s not a physical attribute at all, but an internal one.

Appearance is often categorized as a person’s physical attractiveness. Personality, self-confidence, an engaging attitude, warmth and authenticity are the traits that win out over Physical Appearance. So many of us are hung up on physical appearance, we get stopped before we get started.

What are characteristics of personality? Confidence. The ability to communicate openly in a easy and engaging manner. What are inherent traits of self-confidence?

1. Being clear on an objective.

2. Feeling assured that what you want is within your reach.

3. Self-esteem.

4. Poise.

What I’m pointing to is the non-physical aspects of ‘Personality’. An engaging personality has little to do with physical appearance. Many people I know getting back into the dating game get stopped with the externals of the game.

Your internal dialog goes something like this … “I’m no longer a spring chicken, I can’t compete with the hotties, The singles scene seems so superficial.”

Feeling confident, having an engaging attitude, being kind and open, are the winners of the day. You can meet Mr. or Ms. Right in the grocery store, at church, on a walk, anywhere. Don’t limit yourself by what others are saying.

From the perspective of a Law of Attraction Coach, the essence of what you emanate is attracted or drawn right back to you. If that’s so, (and it IS) doesn’t it makes sense to get dressed with a smile before you go out of the house? It becomes a matter of practicing the traits of self-confidence; being clear about what you want, the ability to have it, knowing your worthy of what you want, and being calmly expectant that the timing is all in perfect order.

“To be in the Dating Consciously mode, you need to ENERGETICALLY dress for success”.

To win the dating game, you want to remember it’s your choice. So choose it to be fun.

Why not write a little summary of an after-the-fact successful date. Write as though the date already happened and you’re really pleased with the outcome. If you don’t have any dating prospects, script a pleasant outcome from a trip to the library or coffee shop. You’re creating your entire life by your beliefs and your thoughts, so why not get creative and deliberate about it. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Your enjoyment of life is directly related to how you perceive every event, situation or outcome. It’s not always easy to see that our interpretation of an event is what makes it good or bad. Empower yourself by taking 100% responsibility for your joy and self-expression. Nobody else has the power to make you feel bad or good, for that matter. It’s always an inside job.

Remember, dating is a game. Relationships are a game. Make sure your games are for fun and you’ll always have a great experience. And remember to enjoy the journey.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction RelationshipSpecialist, writes… …

Lots of people get back into the dating game with trepidation. In the first installment of Dating Consciously, the dating advice I shared was I asked … “What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives before you get disillusioned by the dating scene”? I also said that “Your thoughts create your reality and if that’s so, wouldn’t you like to know what’s keeping you from having fun and success in dating?”

In Part Two, I’ll go more deeply into the aspects of playing where everyone wins. Play with Passion and Purpose. Dating is a game you can re-write the rules at any time. To play the Dating Consciously game, you need to know that:

1. You are playing a game

2. You willingly decide that it will be fun (because you created it as a game for that purpose), and

3. There are only winners

Remember when you were a kid playing in the sandbox, making sandcastles or mud cakes? You could play for hours and hours. Simple, and sheer innocence. Try to access that innocence just for a moment right now.

Where did it go? In the previous paragraph notice how quickly it returned – if just for a moment – but it did return! You create that kind of ease and joy by simply remember it into being. You pretend it into existence, you play it into reality for the sake of playing. And guess what? Your energy shifts so quickly to that light and high vibration, that unless you negate it with old patterns, you become very attractive. You’re energy is literally calling out to like energy to play with it.

The 2 Biggest Stoppers to Dating Consciously

1. Fear of failure/rejection

2. Fear of looking bad/not enough

1. The fear of failure is very human Try on innocence and play full out. Just try it and see how different it feels. Nobody is out to take something from you that you’re not willing to give.] Certainly, there may be different expectations from your date. There’s nothing wrong with that. Simply and clear communication can handle that. Believe me, you’re going to have different expections and points of compatibility. If you didn’t, you’d get awfully bored of that person in a very short period of time. If you decide that you only wanted one play date, so be it. There’s no inherent rejection involved. It’s just a choice on how you or he/she prefers to spend their time. It’s just a choice not a rejection.

2. Do you have a case of the not-enoughers?

You feel that you’re just not good enough on some level. Consider that at the core, everyone has that ancient internal conversation, too. Most everyone at times feels low in self-confidence. You’re not alone here.

Do your best to remain present and on your purpose is to have fun. Think of it as an exploration. “What’s something new can I learn about myself or my date?” You’ve just consciously sent intentions ahead of you.

Playing a game is a very differnt approach to dating. Play with self-expression with the focus on having fun. Purpose means deliberating intending what you’re up to. The bottom line is HAVE FUN.

The high energy of fun is attractive and magnetic. Laugh and have fun. You’ll become a magnet for fun people and if you keep practicing that, eventually you’ll attract the perfect fun mate.

You can learn these tools and more with Relationship Coaching. Dating, like life, if approached as a fun game where there are no losers goes much more smoothly for everyone.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… …

Are you tired of wading through one date after another to find Mr. or Ms. Right? Are you ready to get back into the dating after your divorce? Then you’re probably not dating just for the fun of it. In other words, it’s not a sport or a hobby for you. Most likely you’re looking for interesting conversation with another compatible person. Someone with whom you can share good conversation, fun activities and match up on a number of similar interests.

Whether you are tired of browsing the on-line dating sites, want to find the love of your dreams, or just ended a long term relationship, it’s time you consider Conscious Dating.

Would you like to get clear about what you want and then zero in on attracting fun dating companions?

Your thoughts create your reality – so wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?

How about getting to the meat of the issue, creating a fun game around dating and then get the outcome you’re after — to find a really fun and loving relationship.

Is your curiosity peaked?

I know it is!

I’ve encapsulated my tried and true system of winning at the dating game. It’s called Conscious Dating. Just for the fun of it I’ve designed a 3 Part Series on Conscious Dating designed to get you moving in the higher vibration of manifesting your desired outcome, whether that’s attracting your soul mate or just having fun dating.

In the first of this Conscious Dating Series I’d like to address “The Game” portion of The Dating Game. Dating is a GAME!

First, let’s define the word GAME…

1. Game:An amusement or pastime.

2. Game: A competitive activity involving skill, chance, or endurance on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set of rules, usually for their own amusement or for that of spectators.

The second definition sums up the way most of us feel about dating.

But, if it’s not fun, something is out of alignment.

For many, the latter definition contains elements that take the FUN right out of the pursuit of dating. Those elements are:

Competitive activity, Skill, Chance, Endurance and Rules. These are definite fun-busters!

Curiously enough, these are precisely what you want to stay away from when dating.

FIVE Things To DO When Dating

1. Play. Though this may sound simple, I’ll bet you don’t approach dating as play. You played all day long when you were a kid. How sublime was that? No agenda, no comparisons. Just easy play! Even if your date is a serious type. Make it your game to find fun. You don’t have to see them again if they aren’t playful.

2. Laugh. A cousin of play, laughter is the most infectious way to spread joy. Before going on any date, especially a first date, remind yourself that you will deliberately find ways to feel good and laugh. You’re not fully dressed unless you wear a smile. Just smile for no reason.

3. Listen. This is a great way to make a connection with your companion. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your head and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be wanting to sound off for a variety of reasons. You don’t like the way he slurps his soup. She constantly plays with her hair. Things like that can be distractions. Just notice yourself being distracted and bring yourself back. Again, you don’t have to see them again. Being present is important and will go a long way in building intimacy later on. Adopt this quality in your long term relationships by practicing now. By the way, this is an excellent practice in general with all relationships.

4. Eye Contact. Don’t just make eye contact and nod your head. Practice deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you.

5. Communicate. When it’s your turn to share, confidently offer your ideas. Expect the same attention. Ask for the same attention, if you’re not getting it. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without turning it into a problem. Just kindly ask for what you’d like. Feeling confident in your request takes alot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.

Whether you’re in your 20′s or 70′s, dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… Contrary to accepted love advice that’s out there in cyberspace, asking your date a series of interview questions is one way for certain to turn her off and have him looking for the door.

Seriously, imagine someone meeting you for the first (or tenth) time, asking you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that put YOU at ease? I don’t think so. The relationship advice you get from a man’s point of view, may not work from a woman’s perspective. From a woman’s point of view, a real man is a man who can communicate about what he wants and how he feels.

It’s more prevalent than ever for a real woman to open her heart and communicate openly from her heart. Open communication is a valuable trait and a turn on for most women.

Whether you’re looking for casual dating or your soul mate, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Love Advice for Dating the most important thing to know is what you want.

1. Knowing What You Want

What qualities in your date or mate are you looking for? Get clear about what those qualities are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet him. Is he funny, does she think you’re funny? Is it important to you that she likes sports? Is he interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?

When you know what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? Are there elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re not afraid to get clear and be straight about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when you’ve encountered Mr Right.

2. Be Flexible

When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m proposing that you stay curious about ‘what if he’s even better than I can imagine?’ Be open to getting more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.

3. Let Go of the HOW

When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also resisting what you want, which hinders your magnetic attraction.

4. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet

That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Start shifting your values and qualities. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.

When you’re in the seeking mode, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.

The virtual world that we all get to participate in via the Internet does have a lot of advantages.  Aside from the many studies-related tasks or job-related tasks we can finish, the online community also offers the chance to keep in touch with family, and even to build and maintain a relationship.

Potential right mates can be hard to find when you are not doing anything with your time; just imagine how much more difficult it is when you are tied up to a job.  This is why the interner has become hunting grounds for the love of your life.

There are also other risks just like with regular dating that you may not get the truth about the person you are interested in. There are also other concerns regarding online dating and if you are to involve yourself in this activity, it would be wise to make sure that you keep yourself safe. Follow these tips and you will be on your way to starting an online dating romance. 

Your first concern is to make sure you join a safe and friendly chat room or personals site. You can ask your friends what sites they recommend from personal experience. Moreover, always read through their policies and see to it that you are comfortable with the rules and regulations; these guidelines should be aimed at not only protecting the site, but the members as well.  You don’t want to start an online romance only to lose your PC in the process due to a virus you caught. 

Secondly, you should keep in mind that some of these websites may contain harmful viruses that can damage your computer or worms that can infect your system.  Keep your computer protected by installin programs that guard against this type of invasion.You can get free antivirus software downloads to help protect your PC from harmful dating sites that install spyware on your PC.